Episode 75 - Simple Ways to Build Culture In Your Marriage
May 7, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 2:24–25, Proverbs 5:18, Revelation 2:4
Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet. Scriptures: Genesis 2:24-25 Revelation 2:4 Proverbs 5:18 Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/marriage Discussion Questions: 1. What are some of your inside jokes or rituals in your marriage? 2. How can you build the culture of your marriage? What are the things that are like glue that bond your marriage together?
Episode 65 - Being Real > Being Perfect (feat. Justin Davis)
February 27, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Justin Davis • Proverbs 28:13, Genesis 2:25
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott interviews his friend Justin Davis. With candor and transparency, Justin shares he and his wife’s powerful marriage testimony and we discuss the value of authenticity in helping couples be so much more than just roommates. Scriptures: Proverbs 28:13 Genesis 2:25 Questions to Discuss: Justin defined intimacy as being fully known emotionally, spiritually, and physically. How are you doing in marital intimacy? Who’s more authentic in your marriage—you or your spouse? How can you grow in authenticity? Resources: Justin’s New Book – https://amzn.to/49qmhp6 Justin & Trisha Davis’ Ministry – https://www.refineus.org/ Justin & Trisha’s Marriage Story – https://amzn.to/3soyoyj Justin & Trisha’s Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-get-real-with-justin-and-trisha-davis/id1550718949
Episode 64 - Questions To Ask Your Spouse Every Week
February 20, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 2 Corinthians 12:9, Ephesians 5:15–16, Genesis 2:25
One of the best ways you can grow your marriage is to set aside time every week to ask each other some intentional, specific questions. In this episode of More Than Roommates we discuss the weekly meeting and some questions you can ask each other every week. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 2 Corinthians 12:9 Ephesians 5:15-16 Questions to Discuss: What is God teaching you? How can I serve you better this upcoming week? How can I pray for you in the week ahead? How can we make sure we make time for each other? What's on our calendar in the next week? Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/weekly-meeting
The Undoing of Adam | Advent Week 1
December 3, 2023 • Nate Hilgenkamp • Genesis 1:26—3:15
As we begin our series, “Till He Appears,” Nate shows us how the story of Adam and Eve ultimately predicted the coming of our Savior. Nate contrasts Adam’s shortcomings with Jesus’ fulfillment of our brokenness to illustrate how God planned for our redemption all along. Genesis 1:26-3:15 1) Adam’s use of authority creates the need for Jesus’ use of authority 2) Adam’s actions brought shame, Jesus’ actions removed shame 3) Adam avoids responsibility which Jesus takes responsibility Life Group Questions: 1) Romans 5:18-19 says, "Consequently, just as one trespass resulted in condemnation for all people, so also one righteous act resulted in justification and life for all people. For just as through the disobedience of the one man the many were made sinners, so also through the obedience of the one man the many will be made righteous." How do you see evidence of the Lord's faithfulness even in the midst of Adam and Eve's sin? How does this relate to your life and your need for a Savior? 2) When was a time you were faced with shame, but Jesus ultimately removed this shame in order to glorify Him? 3) What are some ways that you can express gratitude for Jesus taking responsibility for your sin? How could you teach a non-believer about this truth?
Episode 54 - Technology and Your Marriage (Part 1 in a 2-Part Series)
November 28, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Psalm 139:23–24, Galatians 5:1, Proverbs 28:13, Genesis 2:24–25, Romans 13:14
Technology can be both a blessing and a curse. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss ways to grow in oneness in your marriage when it comes to phones and technology. Scriptures: Genesis 2:24-25 PR 28:13 Romans 13:14 Psalm 139:23-24 Galatians 5:1 Questions to Discuss: 1. Is there anything technology-related that’s off-limits to your spouse? Are there any legitimate reasons why your spouse doesn’t have access to your phone/iPad, social media accounts, texts… ? 2. What’s one intentional step you can take to grow in oneness when it comes to technology? 3. Pray Psalm 139:23-24 together, asking God to reveal any offensive ways within you. Resources: https://amzn.to/47rqpb8, by Andy Crouch https://amzn.to/3gbumu1, by Justin Whitmel Earley (Justin has a great chapter on technology in this book)
Episode 53 - Friends, Partners, and Lovers in Marriage (feat. Kevin Thompson)
November 21, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Kevin Thompson • Genesis 2:18–25, Ecclesiastes 4:9–12
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott interviews marriage pastor and author Kevin Thompson about three roles we are each created to play in marriage. We talk about what marriage was intended to look like before the fall and the three roles we get to play in marriage today (and what happens when we don't live as friends, partners, and lovers). Scriptures: Genesis 2:18-25 Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Resources: Book - https://amzn.to/3g89qed by Kevin Thompson Book – https://amzn.to/47jlxp1 by Kevin Thompson Kevin’s Website – https://www.changetheodds.com/ Find Kevin on https://www.instagram.com/kevin_a_thompson/ Questions to Discuss: How are you doing in your friendship in marriage? How are you doing in your partnership in marriage? How are you doing in your role as lover in marriage? What can you celebrate and how can you grow?
Episode 52 - How to Have the Best Holidays Yet with Your Family and In-Laws (Part 2 in a 2-Part Seri
November 14, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 27:17, Romans 12:2, 1 Thessalonians 4:13, Romans 12:10, Genesis 2:24
The holidays provide a great opportunity for us to love and serve our families. Yet, they’re often filled with stress, conflict, and broken relationships. In this episode of More Than Roommates, we discuss how we can best serve our families and keep our marriage strong during the holiday season. Scriptures: Romans 12:10 Genesis 2:24 Proverbs 27:17 Romans 12:2 1 Thessalonians 4:13 Questions to Discuss: What’s one way you can serve your family this holiday season? Have you communicated your plans for the holidays with your families? What’s a new tradition you can start as you visit family this year during the holidays? Resources: Episode 43 of More Than Roommates – https://pod.link/1667102563/episode/6a9cbcece366c6d72ddf9f8cd28b41e6 Book – https://amzn.to/3sagnbr Blog – https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/3-ways-to-communicate-your-way-to-a-merry-little-christmas
Episode 49 - We are Made For People (feat. Justin Whitmel Earley)
October 24, 2023 • Justin Whitmel Earley, Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough • Genesis 2:18
In this episode of More Than Roommates, we interview Justin Whitmel Earley, author of Made For People. We discuss loneliness and how to fight for a life of friendship, both inside and outside of marriage. We also talked about vulnerability, technology, forgiveness, social media, and so much more! Shownotes: Justin’s website – https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com/ (check out his email list!) https://amzn.to/46plnkg: Why We Drift Into Loneliness and How to Fight for a Life of Friendship https://amzn.to/48pus9c: Habits of Purpose for an Age of Distraction https://amzn.to/48p52xo: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhyhtms Questions to Discuss: 1. How’s your friendship with your spouse? How can you grow in your friendship with your spouse? 2. How can you grow in your friendship with others outside of your marriage? 3. Do you have friends who know you fully and love you anyway?
Episode 46 - What Factor Makes the Biggest Difference in Healthy Families?
October 5, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 22:6, Galatians 3:28, Genesis 1:26–27
BONUS EPISODE! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott share some of their takeaways from their interview with Professor Nancy Pearcey about her book The Toxic War on Masculinity. They discuss what surprised and encouraged them and also discuss what healthy spiritual leadership in the home looks like. Scriptures: Galatians 3:28, Genesis 1:26-27, Proverbs 22:6 Shownotes: Book by Nancy Pearcey – https://amzn.to/46fzrwa Episode #45 of More Than Roommates - Interview with Professor Pearcey Blog Post – https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/spiritual-leadership Blog Post – https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/spiritual-leadership-part2 Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/spiritual-leadership-part3 Questions to Discuss: 1. What surprised you or encouraged you the most from this episode? 2. What’s one area of your life where you are nominal in your faith? 3. Have you and your spouse discussed what healthy spiritual leadership looks like in the home?
Episode 43 - The Not-So-Secret Guide to In-Law Relationships (feat. Dave Willis)
September 19, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Dave Willis • Genesis 2:25, Ruth 1:16–17, Romans 12:18
In-Laws and family of origin often get a bad reputation, and our relationship with our families is often a major stressor in marriage. In this week’s episode, Derek and Scott interview podcaster, speaker, and author Dave Willis. Dave and his wife Ashley host the very popular podcast, The Naked Marriage with Dave & Ashley Willis. We’re confident this episode will both help and entertain you as we discuss how to have healthy relationships with your in-laws. Scriptures: Romans 12:18 Genesis 2:25 Ruth 1:16-17 Shownotes: Dave & Ashley’s new book - https://amzn.to/3plo2fs https://xomarriage.com/ Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-naked-marriage-with-dave-ashley-willis/id1437213097 Dave & Ashley on https://www.instagram.com/daveandashleywillis/ Questions to Discuss: How is your relationship with your parents/family of origin? In-laws? What can you do today to improve these relationships? When you have issues/challenges in your marriage, who do you first turn to—friends, the Lord, your parents?
Episode 42 - When’s the Right Time To Grow Your Family?
September 12, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 1:27–28, Psalm 127:3–5, James 1:17, Matthew 19:12, Matthew 28:19–20
We’re answering our most frequently asked questions! When do you start trying to grow your family? How many kids should you have? What if you want kids but can’t get pregnant? How should couples view children? Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott answer these questions and more in this week’s new episode of More Than Roommates. Scriptures: Genesis 1:27-28 Psalm 127:3-5 James 1:17 Matthew 19:12 Matthew 28:19-20 Show Notes: Blog Post: https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/how-to-change-the-world-raise-a-godly-young-man Becoming Something with Jonathan Pokluda (Podcast) – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-225-should-i-want-to-have-kids-and-how-many/id1454045768?i=1000622869241 Resources for those walking through infertility: Website - Watermark Community Church in Dallas has compiled some helpful resources through their https://www.watermark.org/ministries/shiloh. Book - https://amzn.to/3sdf6tj Other couples – the best resource is to find another couple who has walked this road. Questions to discuss: How do you view children? As a burden or a blessing? (Answer with honesty) Are you and your spouse aligned in how you view children? How did you know when to start trying to grow your family?
Episode 39 - What Does the Bible Say about Marital Roles? (Part 1)
August 22, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Mark 10:42–45, Ephesians 5:22–28, Genesis 1:26–27, John 14:26
In this episode (Part 1 of a 2-part series), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what the Bible says about roles in marriage. We discuss different views on marital roles, and even share some of our own different views on this topic. Roles are often misunderstood and abused, so we all need to think (and act) rightly on this topic. Scriptures: Ephesians 5:22-28, Genesis 1:26-27, 2:28, 3:16; John 14:26; Mark 10:42-45 Resources - We’re including more resources that normal since we know this is a topic about which many husbands and wives have questions. From God Questions - https://www.gotquestions.org/egalitarianism.html From Got Questions - https://www.gotquestions.org/complementarianism.html From Harris Creek – a Message from JP - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlz5ujxutkc https://reknew.org/2007/12/must-wives-submit-to-husbands/ From the Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - https://cbmw.org/2007/06/26/summaries-of-the-egalitarian-and-complementarian-positions/ Questions to discuss: 1) How did your upbringing affect your views on roles in marriage? 2) How are you doing at serving each other? 3) How do you make big decisions in your marriage?
Blessed To Be A Blessing
July 16, 2023 • Tedashii • Psalm 67, Genesis 12:1, Numbers 6:24–27
As we continue our series, "Soundtracks", Tedashii teaches through Psalm 67. He teaches us the desire of this psalm is to let the whole world know and praise God, and the way we do that is to be a blessing to others. 1) Blessings do not come to you. They flow through you. 2) God blesses us because He loves us. 3) God blesses us so we can bless others.
Episode 30 - What Does It Look Like To Be a Lifelong Learner In Your Marriage?
June 23, 2023 • 1 Peter 3:7, Genesis 2:25, Ephesians 5:25, James 1:19
One of the biggest challenges most couples face is that they become complacent in marriage and stop making efforts to learn more about themselves, their spouse, and marriage. In this main stage session from the Behind the Scenes Marriage Conference at Harris Creek (Jan, 2023), Scott Kedersha shares what it looks like to be a lifelong learner in marriage. Questions to Discuss: 1. When you first started dating each other, what did you do to learn more about your significant other? 2. What is one practical step you can take today to be a better student of your spouse? 3. Challenge: You and your spouse each come up with 2 questions to ask each other. Make time on your calendar to ask each other your questions.
Episode 29 - How Can You Think Rightly About Sex and Marriage? (Part 1 of 3)
June 20, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 1:28, 1 Corinthians 10:31, Song of Songs 5:1, Genesis 2:24
In Part 1 of this 3-part series on sex and marriage, Scott, Gabrielle, and Derek discuss how to have a healthy and right view of sex and marriage. We all bring baggage and challenges into marriage when it comes to sex, but if we want to have a healthy sex life, then we must learn how to think rightly about it. https://amzn.to/3jftoyh, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Questions to Discuss 1. What were some fears you had about sex before you got married? 2. Do you believe you and your spouse have a healthy view of sex and marriage? Why or why not? 3. How would you and your spouse rate your sex life on a scale of 1-10? Why did you answer the way you did?