More than Roommates
Episode 81 - How To Grow In Emotional Intimacy (Part 2 In A Series)
June 18, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Galatians 6:1–2, Ephesians 5:31–32, Matthew 18:15–17, Ecclesiastes 4:9–10, Genesis 2:25
In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already! Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 Galatians 6:2 Ephesians 5:31-32 Matthew 18:15-17 Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Resources: Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000658593477 Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 64 - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000645987570 Book – https://amzn.to/3z3uw1d, by Jennie Allen Book – https://amzn.to/4c2ndp4, by Chip Dodd Book - https://amzn.to/3x287qr, by Dave and Ashley Willis Questions to Discuss: 1. How do you handle an “emotional mismatch” in your marriage (when one more readily expresses/shares/shows their emotions)? 2. What prevents you from being emotionally intimate with your spouse (i.e., technology, invalidation)? 3. How can you create more time and space for emotional intimacy?
Episode 80 - Fully Known, Fully Loved (Part 1 in a series on emotional intimacy)
June 11, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 2:25, 2 Corinthians 12:9–10
We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/4c2ndp4, by Chip Dodd Book - https://amzn.to/3x287qr, by Dave and Ashley Willis 3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse: 1. Is there anything that I’m holding back from or not confessing to my spouse? 2. How can we be more emotionally intimate with each other (i.e., clear out time and space for emotionally intimacy)? 3. Am I providing a safe space for my spouse?
Episode 79 - Is Drinking Good For Your Marriage?
June 4, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Corinthians 6:12, 1 Corinthians 10:31, Ephesians 5:18, Isaiah 2:22, John 2
Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol. Scriptures: John 2 1 Corinthians 6:12 1 Corinthians 10:31 Ephesians 5:18 Isaiah 5:22-23 Questions to Discuss: 1. When did you have your first alcoholic drink (if ever)? 2. How can you and your spouse be more thoughtful about alcohol and your marriage? 3. Have a conversation with your spouse and an age-appropriate conversation with your kids about alcohol. Resources: Christ-Centered Recovery - https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/ & https://www.celebraterecovery.com/ https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/struggles/substance-abuse Resources
Episode 78 - How Does Anger Affect Your Marriage?
May 28, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • James 4:1, Ephesians 4:26–27, Proverbs 21:19, Proverbs 15:1, James 1:19
Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well. Scriptures: Proverbs 15:1 Ephesians 4:26-27 Proverbs 21:19 James 1:19-20, 4:1 Questions to Discuss: 1. What are the small day-to-day things that get you frustrated? 2. Do you find yourself quick to anger or slow to anger? What would your spouse say about you? 3. What are the triggers that you’ve identified that make you quick to anger both in life in general and in your marriage? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/4bsfvzk, by Brant Hansen
Episode 77 - Struggles, Recovery, and Your Marriage (feat. Ann Daly)
May 21, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Ann Daly • James 5:16, Proverbs 28:13, Romans 5:3–5, 1 Peter 4:19, Hebrews 3:13
Like it or not, our struggles affect our marriages more than we realize. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott talk with Ann Daly about struggles, recovery, and your marriage. Because of Jesus, life change is possible for everyone and for every marriage. Scriptures: James 5:16 Proverbs 28:13 Genesis 2:24 Galatians 1:10 Romans 5:3-5 1 Peter 4:19 Galatians 6:9 Hebrews 3:13 Resources: https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/ – change is possible! https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/struggle-finder – What are you struggling with? https://www.celebraterecovery.com/ Questions to Discuss: 1. Do you tend to identify yourself by your sin or by your relationship with Jesus Christ? 2. How do your issues/challenges affect your marriage? 3. What lies do you tend to believe? Who does God say you are? (Replace the lies with Truth).
Episode 76 - Decisions We Make in Marriage That Might Seem Weird to the World
May 14, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Romans 12:2, 1 Peter 2:11, Philippians 3:20–21, 2 Timothy 2:4
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss things we do that may seem weird to the world but allow us to be different in our marriages than the struggling marriages we all see around us. These are decisions we’ve each made that may seem unique but allow us to strengthen our marriages. Scriptures: Romans 12:2 1 Peter 2:11 Philippians 3:20-21 2 Timothy 2:4 Resources: Podcast & Blog Post - https://jonacuff.com/atg164/ Questions to Discuss: 1. What are the things you do in your marriage that make you different than the marriages of the world? (Romans 12:2) 2. Where do you see your marriage blending in with the marriages of the world/non-Christian marriages? 3. Would your non-Christian friends look at your marriage and see something unique or different?
Episode 75 - Simple Ways to Build Culture In Your Marriage
May 7, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 2:24–25, Proverbs 5:18, Revelation 2:4
Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet. Scriptures: Genesis 2:24-25 Revelation 2:4 Proverbs 5:18 Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/marriage Discussion Questions: 1. What are some of your inside jokes or rituals in your marriage? 2. How can you build the culture of your marriage? What are the things that are like glue that bond your marriage together?
Episode 74 - How To Fight Your Temptations
April 30, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 5, Proverbs 18:8, 1 Peter 1:16, Proverbs 13:20
Everyone of us struggles with temptation—even Jesus faced temptations! What are the temptations we need to avoid that can wreck our marriage? And how is marriage uniquely designed so that we can help each other flee from temptations? Scriptures: Proverbs 5 Proverbs 18:8 Proverbs 13:20 1 Peter 1:16 Questions to Discuss: 1. What does it look like for you to flee from temptation? 2. What temptations do you face? How can your spouse help you? 3. How can you move the line, magnify the consequences, and map out your escape? 4. What would be helpful for you to confess to your spouse and to your community to help you with your temptations? Resources: Book - https://amzn.to/3ucn1qz, by Craig Groeschel
Episode 73 - Strengthen Your Marriage Through Prayer (feat. Aaron Smith)
April 23, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Aaron Smith • Hebrews 4:15, 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18
On this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek and Scott have an authentic and honest conversation with Aaron Smith from the ministry Marriage After God. We discuss pornography, intimacy issues, and the challenges many couples face. Aaron and his wife Jennifer hope to inspire individuals to draw closer to God and their spouse as they chase boldly after God’s purpose for their life together. Scriptures: Hebrews 4:15 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Questions to Discuss: 1. How are you and your spouse doing at consistently praying together? 2. What’s one step you and your spouse can take to pray together on a more consistent basis? Resources: Aaron & Jennifer Smith’s Website – https://marriageaftergod.com/ The Smiths new book – https://amzn.to/3w4yc6c Aaron and Jennifer Smith’s Marriage Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-after-god/id1349500084
Episode 72 - Should Married Christians Have Celebrity Crushes?
April 16, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Romans 12:1–2, Romans 13:14, Proverbs 5:18–19, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Corinthians 6:18
In our culture, it’s extremely common for married people to have celebrity crushes—studies say 80% of married men and women have celebrity crushes. Does that make it okay for you or your spouse to have a celebrity crush? Should you have crushes on anyone besides your spouse? Scriptures: Proverbs 5:18-19 Romans 12:1-2, 13:14 Ephesians 5:3 1 Corinthians 6:18 Questions to Discuss: Who’s the most famous person you’ve ever met? Why do you think we obsess about celebrities? Why do you think people believe it’s acceptable to have a celebrity crush but not okay to have a crush on non-celebrities? Tell your spouse what you love about them and then go crush on them!
Episode 71 - What Are Some Lies We Believe About Our Marriages?
April 9, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 5:8, John 10:10, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Romans 5:8
We have an enemy who likes to feed us lies about marriage, temptation, and God’s design for relationships. The enemy actively tries to destroy our marriages, but as followers of Christ, the One we serve and follow is greater! We hope you’re encouraged by this new episode of More Than Roommates. Scriptures: 1 Peter 5:8 John 10:10 1 Corinthians 13:5 Romans 5:8 Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3thrygj, by C.S. Lewis Questions to Discuss: 1. Did you and your spouse write letters to each other during dating and engagement? 2. What are some of the lies you believe about yourself and about marriage? 3. What are some things that your spouse does ‘right’—focus on keeping track of what they do right and not wrong/annoying. 4. What are the times when you tend to be the most susceptible to believing lies or engaging in conflict with your spouse?
Episode 70 - What’s the Deal (and the Dangers) With Polyamory?
April 2, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Isaiah 4:1, 1 Peter 5:8, John 10:10
While this may not be the story for most of our marriages, polyamorous relationships (multiple romantic relationships with the consent of all involved) are gaining traction in culture. What do you need to know about polyamory and how can you protect your marriage? Scriptures: Isaiah 4:1 1 Peter 5:8 John 10:10 Resources: Podcast – https://albertmohler.com/2024/02/15/briefing-2-15-24/ – February 15, 2024 Book – https://amzn.to/3te0muh, by Brad Wilcox Article – https://www.denisonforum.org/daily-article/couple-to-throuple-normalizes-polyamory/, by Jim Denison Questions to Discuss: 1. What are some ways you can “water your own garden” and pour into your own marriage? 2. Take a few moments to pray that God would protect your marriage from any polyamorous desires and pray the same for the marriages of your close friends and family. 3. Think about what you engage with in books, TV, and movies. How can these resources potentially fuel your desires in a harmful way? Discuss with your spouse.
Episode 69 - The Enneagram And Marriage (feat. Christa Hardin)
March 26, 2024 • Christa Hardin, Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 3:7
In this episode of More Than Roommates, we interview Counselor and Author Christa Hardin about her book and work with the enneagram. The enneagram is a helpful resource to help you learn more about yourself, your spouse, and your interactions in marriage and today we discuss how it can help you strengthen your marriage. Scripture: 1 Peter 3:7 Resources: Christa’s Book – https://amzn.to/3tllekt, by Christa Hardin Christa’s Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Christa’s Website – https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ and Follow Christa on https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/ Questions to Discuss: What is your enneagram number? Your spouse’s? How is the enneagram a helpful tool to help you understand yourself and your spouse in a deeper way? What’s one practical way you can serve and encourage your spouse today in their unique wiring?
Episode 68 - What Are You Currently Learning In Your Marriage?
March 19, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 3:7, James 1:22–25
In Part 2 of this series on being a learner in marriage, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss different ways we can all learn in marriage and what we're each learning in our own marriages currently. Scripture: 1 Peter 3:7 James 1:22-25 Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/do-you-and-your-spouse-have-teachable-and-humble-hearts-in-marriage Book – https://amzn.to/3prjayt, by Gary Chapman Questions to Discuss: 1. How do you learn? What kind of learner are you? 2. What is something you are learning in marriage right now? 3. What’s one way, today, you can choose to intentionally learn more about your spouse?
Episode 67 - What We Did And Didn't Learn in Premarital Counseling
March 12, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • James 1:19, Proverbs 18:2, 1 Corinthians 7:28
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what they did and didn’t learn in premarital counseling. Whether engaged or married for decades, we hope today’s new episode encourages and challenges you in your marriage. Scriptures: Proverbs 18:2 James 1:19 1 Corinthians 7:28 Resources: Book – Tim Keller, https://amzn.to/3t1x6ab Book – Scott Kedersha, https://amzn.to/3wbljhe Podcast – Episode 35 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000622253291 Podcast – Episode 12 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000604088360 Questions to Discuss: When’s the last time you were really unprepared for something? What are you glad you learned in premarital counseling? What do you wish you had learned in premarital counseling?