September 24, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Matthew 11:28–30, Exodus 20:8–11, Genesis 2:2–3, Mark 2:23–28
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk what the Bible says about rest, the importance of Sabbath rest and your marriage, and reasons why we struggle to Sabbath.
Scriptures:
Exodus 20:8-11
Genesis 2:2-3
Mark 2:23-28
MT 11:28-30
Resources:
Books - https://amzn.to/4ehia5x and https://amzn.to/4eddog4, by John Mark Comer
Podcast, More Than Roommates, Episode 62 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000642627456
Podcast, More Than Roommates, Episode 82 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000660152521
Books – Andy Crouch – https://amzn.to/4ewxz6r and Amy Crouch & Andy Crouch - https://amzn.to/3zzl410
Book - https://amzn.to/4ewfqqx, by Lynne Baab
Website – 9 practices - https://www.practicingtheway.org/
Questions to Discuss:
1. How do you and your spouse do with sleep and rest?
2. How often do you and your spouse set aside intentional time for rest?
3. What prevents/keeps you from Sabbath rest? (i.e., pride, trust)
4. What would Sabbath rest make possible in your lives, family, and marriage?
Episode 94 - How To Be A Better Listener In Marriage
September 17, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 3:7, Romans 12:10, James 1:19, Proverbs 18:2
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss one of the most important skills required for healthy marriages. We discuss why we struggle to be good listeners and what we can do about it.
Scriptures:
James 1:19
Proverbs 18:2
Romans 12:10
1 Peter 3:7
Questions to Discuss:
1. What are you listening to now (podcasts, audiobook, music)? Share with your significant other.
2. Discuss with your spouse some of the reasons why you struggle to listen well? What are your biggest challenges/obstacles to being a good listener?
3. What’s one step you can take to a better listener in your relationships?
Resources:
Podcast More Than Roommates – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000660152521
Episode 93 - Who is Ashley Madison and Why Should You Care?
September 10, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Psalm 32:3–4, 1 John 1:9, James 5:16, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Matthew 10:26
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the Ashley Madison scandal and how to fight temptations in your marriage. We want you to be more than roommates and to fight for your marriage as you guard against the enemy who seeks to destroy you and your marriage.
Scriptures:
MT 10:26
Rom 2:16
1 Cor 4:5
PS 32:3-4
James 4:1
MT 5:27-30
1 Cor 7:28
1 John 1:9
James 5:16
Ephesians 4:26-27
1 Cor 6:18
PR 28:13
Resources:
Podcast – More Than Roommates, Episode 70 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000651164542
Questions to Discuss:
1. What’s a courageous step you can take in your marriage today to help strengthen it against the threat of temptations?
2. Discuss with your spouse the things that tempt you. How can you help each other in this battle? How can you prayer for each other?
3. This is a scary prayer, but would you be willing to pray for God to mercifully expose any sin in your life and in your marriage?
Episode 92 - How Do I Balance Time With My Spouse and With Friends?
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about how to balance time with your spouse, family, and friends. Is it possible to strike a healthy balance in how to best spend our time together and with others?
Resources:
More Than Roommates – Episode 49 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000632422303
More Than Roommates – Episode 13 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000605138137
Scriptures:
Genesis 2:18
Hebrews 10:23-25
Galatians 6:1
1 Corinthians 15:33
Proverbs 18:24
Questions to Discuss:
1. Discuss with your spouse: Who were your closest friends when you were growing up?
2. What would it look like for you and your spouse to not give up, but to unswervingly pursue relationships with others?
3. Discuss together: What do we need to do to help us find a healthy balance in our time together and time with friends?
Episode 91 - Q&A About Sex & Marriage (feat. Kait & JJ Tomlin)
August 27, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Kait Tom • 1 John 4:8, Matthew 5:27, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Corinthians 6:18
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Kait & JJ Tomlin from the Heart of Dating. We have a great discussion about sex and marriage as we pepper Kait & JJ with all kinds of questions.
Resources:
https://www.heartofdating.com/
Follow https://www.instagram.com/heartofdating on Instagram
Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heart-of-dating/id1358733969 with Kait & JJ Tomlin
Podcast - That Sounds Fun – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/summer-lovin-sex-dating-with-kait-jj-tomlin/id944925529?i=1000617111809
Book https://amzn.to/3mkix2l, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta
Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
Website – https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/
Podcast – More Than Roommates – Episode 64 – Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every Week
Scriptures:
1 John 4:8
Matthew 5:27
Ephesians 5:3
1 Corinthians 6:18
Questions to Discuss:
1. What do you and your spouse do when one person is in the mood sexually and the other is not?
2. Do you have a safe space to be 100% honest with your spouse about everything in your life? Your sex life?
3. What do you and your spouse need to discuss with each other from this episode of More Than Roommates?
Episode 90 - Our Favorite Marriage Resources
August 20, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 11:2, Proverbs 13:20, Job 12:12
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the books, podcasts, and resources that have most deeply affected their marriages. With a lot of great resources out there, we want to help you to be thoughtful about the resources that impact your marriage.
Scriptures:
Proverbs 11:2
Job 12:12
Proverbs 13:20
Resources Mentioned:
https://amzn.to/4cw5jq5, by Gary Thomas
https://amzn.to/4ds9owk, by Tim and Kathy Keller
https://amzn.to/4cylumn, by Gary Thomas
https://amzn.to/3av3ewk, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta
https://amzn.to/4cym0kl, by John Gottman
https://amzn.to/4frj5l0, by Scott Kedersha
https://amzn.to/3wog5lz, by Scott Kedersha
https://amzn.to/4cua7ah, by Jonathan Pokluda
https://amzn.to/4dsaatg, by Kevin Thompson
https://amzn.to/3x5qf78, by Dave & Ashley Willis
https://amzn.to/4cxfuzd, and https://amzn.to/3stctqh by Sue Johnson
https://amzn.to/4dscctm, by Scott Stanley
https://amzn.to/4dmvbyc, by Ted Lowe
https://amzn.to/3m9acyp, by Ted Cunningham
More Than Roommates, Episode 35 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000622253291
More Than Roommates, Episodes 53 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000635540570
More Than Roommates, Episode 58 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000639719480
More Than Roommates, Episode 43 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000628423973
More Than Roommates, Episode 12 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000604088360
Website & Podcast - https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
Website & Podcast - https://fiercemarriage.com/
Website & Podcast – https://www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-today/
Questions to Discuss:
1. If you were on a deserted, and could only bring 1-2 books (besides the Bible), what book(s) would you bring with you?
2. What marriage book has been most helpful for you and your spouse?
3. Out of all the resources mentioned, which one will you and your spouse read and/or listen to?
Episode 89 - Exceeding Your Spouse's Expectations
August 13, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • James 4:1, Proverbs 13:12, 1 Corinthians 7:28, John 16:33, 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss expectations in marriage – where do our expectations come from, what if they’re not met, and how can you exceed your spouse’s expectations? Part 2 in a 2-part mini-series on expectations.
Scriptures:
James 4:1
Proverbs 13:12
1 Corinthians 7:28
John 16:33
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
Questions to Discuss:
1. When’s the last time something did not meet your expectations?
2. What are the main sources of your expectations in your marriage?
3. What’s something you can do today to exceed your spouse’s expectations?
Resources:
More Than Roommates – Episode 88 - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000664460828 Part 1 in 2-part series (feat. Ann Daly)
More Than Roommates – Episode 23 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000614979137 (Part 1, feat. Jonathan “JP” Pokluda)
More Than Roommates – Episode 24 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000615408407 (Part 2, feat. Johnathan “JP” Pokluda)
Episode 88 - Who Or What Most Impacts Your Marriage?
August 6, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Ann Daly • Psalm 1, Proverbs 13:20, Proverbs 27:6, Proverbs 27:17, 1 Corinthians 15:33
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Ann, and Scott talk about who or what most significantly impacts your marriage. Whether it’s other couples, what we’re entertained by, or what we follow on social media, we need to be thoughtful about who and what most impacts our marriages. Part 2 in a 2-part series on expectations.
Scripture:
1 Corinthians 15:33
Psalm 1
PR 13:20
2 Corinthians 6:14
Romans 12:15
PR 27:6
PR 27:17
Questions to Discuss:
1. Who did you want to be like when you were growing up?
2. What are the characteristics of couples who have a poor influence on marriage?
3. What couples are most influencing your marriage (in a positive or negative way)?
Episode 87 - When Your Marriage Is Stuck In A Rut
July 30, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Ann Daly • Matthew 7:3–5, Galatians 6:9, Romans 12:18, 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, Proverbs 18:2
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Ann Daly joins Derek and Scott as we discuss what to do when you’re stuck and struggling in your marriage. Even if you’re not stuck today, there are seasons of marriage when we all find ourselves stuck and just going through the motions. This would be a great episode to share with a friend who’s stuck in their marriage.
Scriptures:
Matthew 7:3-5
Romans 12:18
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Proverbs 18:2
Gal 6:9
Resources:
Book - https://amzn.to/4frlbpn – by Timothy Keller
Marriage Ministry and Resources - https://www.reengage.org/
Recovery Ministry and Resources – https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/
Podcast – More Than Roommates, Episode 57 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000639064134
Questions to Discuss:
1. Icebreaker - When’s the last time you were stuck in really bad weather?
2. When’s the last time you and your spouse were stuck in your marriage?
3. What do you do when you’re stuck and think there’s no way out?
Episode 86 - The Dangers of Money & Marriage
July 23, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Timothy 6:10, Acts 5:1–11, Matthew 6:21, Psalm 24:1
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the potential dangers of money and how money can affect your marriage in both positive and negative ways.
Scripture:
1 Timothy 6:10
Acts 5:1-11
Matthew 6:21
Psalm 24:1
Questions to Discuss:
1. What’s something dangerous you’ve done in life?
2. What do you think about the statement that we should be more afraid of the dangers of money?
3. Where does money draw you offsides in your marriage?
4. What are some ways you and your spouse can be more creative in how you steward your finances?
5. How does your upbringing affect the way you and your spouse view money/stewardship?
Episode 85 - Is There Anything Hidden In Your Marriage?
July 16, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Luke 8:17, Matthew 12:36, Proverbs 5:21, Matthew 18:15–17, 1 John 1:5–7
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a story where a couple’s “secret” argument was overheard by a room of people. What would happen if others heard your arguments that take place behind closed doors?
Scripture:
Luke 8:17
Matthew 12:36
Proverbs 5:21
MT 18:15-17
1 John 1:5-7
Questions to Discuss:
1. What reality show would you and your spouse want to be on?
2. What if everything you did and say was broadcast for the rest of the world to see and hear?
3. How do you decide when to bring others into your marriage disagreements and conflicts?
Episode 84 - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage - Part 2
July 9, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Ephesians 5:22–33, 1 Corinthians 7, Matthew 5:27–32, Matthew 19:3–12, Genesis 2:18–25
In Part 2 in this 2-part series on marriage, divorce, and remarriage, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott focus on remarriage, how you can help others walking through marriage challenges, and the role community can play in helping proactively and reactively strengthening marriages.
Scriptures:
Matthew 19:3-12
Genesis 2:18-25
Ephesians 5:22-33
1 Corinthians 7
2 Corinthians 6:14
Matthew 5:27-32
Questions to Discuss:
1. Pray that God would strengthen your marriage and that God would protect you from separation and divorce.
2. How can God use you and your marriage to help strengthen the marriages of others?
3. Do you believe God can truly heal any marriage?
Resources:
Article - https://garythomasbooks.substack.com/p/revisiting-enough-is-enough-why-the, by Gary Thomas
Episode 83 - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage - Part 1
July 2, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Corinthians 7, 2 Corinthians 6:14, Matthew 19:3–12, Genesis 2:18–25, Ephesians 5:22–33
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage and how this plays out in our marriages. This new episode will be helpful for your own marriage and as you seek to encourage friends in their marriages.
Scriptures:
Matthew 19:3-12
Genesis 2:18-25
Ephesians 5:22-33
1 Corinthians 7
2 Corinthians 6:14
Matthew 5:27-32
Questions to Discuss:
1. Have you ever studied and discussed with your spouse what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage?
2. What are some practical steps you can take to help strengthen your marriage proactively?
3. How can you do a better job of inviting others in to your conversations about your marriage?
Resources:
Podcast – More Than Roommates, Episode 3 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000595868210
Episode 82 - How Does Work Affect Your Marriage? (feat. Jordan Raynor)
June 25, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Jordan Raynor • Genesis 1:26–28, Revelation 21, Isaiah 65:17–23
In this episode, Derek and Scott interview speaker and author, Jordan Raynor. Jordan is a leading voice of the faith and work movement, and in this episode we get very practical as we discuss the connection, challenges, and opportunities of work and marriage.
Questions for Discussion:
1. Spend some time thinking about Jordan’s statement – who do you do your work with?
2. How can you not let your work/jobs negatively affect your marriage and family?
3. How can you be fully present both at home AND at work?
Resources:
Books by Jordan Raynor – https://amzn.to/4erd2wf, https://amzn.to/4ctj8dw, https://amzn.to/3kmhxe2
Website – https://www.jordanraynor.com/
Jordan’s Podcast – https://www.jordanraynor.com/podcast
Book – https://amzn.to/3rzbmvi, by Tim Keller
Scripture:
Genesis 1:26-28
Revelation 21
Isaiah 65:17-23
Episode 81 - How To Grow In Emotional Intimacy (Part 2 In A Series)
June 18, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Galatians 6:1–2, Ephesians 5:31–32, Matthew 18:15–17, Ecclesiastes 4:9–10, Genesis 2:25
In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already!
Scriptures:
Genesis 2:25
Galatians 6:2
Ephesians 5:31-32
Matthew 18:15-17
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Resources:
Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000658593477
Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 64 - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000645987570
Book – https://amzn.to/3z3uw1d, by Jennie Allen
Book – https://amzn.to/4c2ndp4, by Chip Dodd
Book - https://amzn.to/3x287qr, by Dave and Ashley Willis
Questions to Discuss:
1. How do you handle an “emotional mismatch” in your marriage (when one more readily expresses/shares/shows their emotions)?
2. What prevents you from being emotionally intimate with your spouse (i.e., technology, invalidation)?
3. How can you create more time and space for emotional intimacy?
