Episode 50 - Are You Quick To Own Your Part Or Quick To Blame Your Spouse?

More Than Roommates

October 31, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Matthew 7:3–5, 1 Timothy 1:15, Psalm 139:23–24, Proverbs 28:13

Many of us tend to be quick to blame our spouse and slow to own our part. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how we can do a better job of owning our part instead of blaming. Draw the circle around yourself and work on the person inside the circle.

Scriptures:

Matthew 7:3-5

1 Timothy 1:15

Psalm 139:23-24

Proverbs 28:13

Shownotes:

How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told, by Harrison Scott Key

How to Stay Married, TED talk by Harrison Scott Key

When Sinners Say I Do, by Dave Harvey

Save the Date: The More Than Roommates Marriage Conference, Feb 2-3, 2024, Harris Creek Baptist Church (More details coming soon)

Questions to Discuss:

1. How do you do in owning your part? Do you tend to own your part or point the finger and blame your spouse?

2. What would owning your part allow to happen in your marriage?

3. Do you own your part too slowly? Too quickly? Or just right? Ask your community if you need some input.

Episode 80 - Fully Known, Fully Loved (Part 1 in a series on emotional intimacy)

June 11, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 2:25, 2 Corinthians 12:9–10

We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/4c2ndp4, by Chip Dodd Book - https://amzn.to/3x287qr, by Dave and Ashley Willis 3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse: 1. Is there anything that I’m holding back from or not confessing to my spouse? 2. How can we be more emotionally intimate with each other (i.e., clear out time and space for emotionally intimacy)? 3. Am I providing a safe space for my spouse?

Episode 79 - Is Drinking Good For Your Marriage?

June 4, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Corinthians 6:12, 1 Corinthians 10:31, Ephesians 5:18, Isaiah 2:22, John 2

Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol. Scriptures: John 2 1 Corinthians 6:12 1 Corinthians 10:31 Ephesians 5:18 Isaiah 5:22-23 Questions to Discuss: 1. When did you have your first alcoholic drink (if ever)? 2. How can you and your spouse be more thoughtful about alcohol and your marriage? 3. Have a conversation with your spouse and an age-appropriate conversation with your kids about alcohol. Resources: Christ-Centered Recovery - https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/ & https://www.celebraterecovery.com/ https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/struggles/substance-abuse Resources

Episode 78 - How Does Anger Affect Your Marriage?

May 28, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • James 4:1, Ephesians 4:26–27, Proverbs 21:19, Proverbs 15:1, James 1:19

Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well. Scriptures: Proverbs 15:1 Ephesians 4:26-27 Proverbs 21:19 James 1:19-20, 4:1 Questions to Discuss: 1. What are the small day-to-day things that get you frustrated? 2. Do you find yourself quick to anger or slow to anger? What would your spouse say about you? 3. What are the triggers that you’ve identified that make you quick to anger both in life in general and in your marriage? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/4bsfvzk, by Brant Hansen