"With Me in Paradise"
I rewatched the great animated movie Coco this past week. Studying Jesus’ Famous Last Words in Luke 23, I just couldn’t get the main song out of my head: “Remember Me.” In the film, that refrain is an expression of a major plot point: those who die can live on and revisit us as long as we are faithful to honor their memory. Metaphor becomes reality for a young man who accidentally reverses direction (guided by a certain “Dante”), visiting his great grandfather in the underworld instead. There, everyone is either enjoying the gifts that come with being remembered, or anxiously awaiting the second death that comes when the last candle held for them is extinguished. The theme seems a bit macabre for a family film, but they really manage to pull it off.
This idea that existence depends on the attention or memory of another mind was championed by the philosopher George Berkeley in the early 1700’s. He was an Irish Episcopal bishop, very concerned about the materialism arising within Enlightenment rationalism. Some called his idealism silliness because, for example, if a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to hear it, it does, of course, still make a sound! Berkeley’s response was that the only reason there is so much stability in the world is because it is all held together – remembered – in the mind of God. Good comeback. I don’t know if that’s how it all works or not, but I do know that his theory complements the constant prayers in Scripture that God would remember us in death. “For in him we live and move and have our being.”
Let’s take this further. A couple of years ago, I read a novel called The Secret Life of Addie LaRue. A young French villager facing an unwanted arranged marriage strikes a Faustian bargain with one of “the gods who answer after dark.” Her request is simple: “I want more time to be young, and I want my life to be my own.” The request is granted, but the awful catch is that she will be henceforth unable to make any lasting impression on anyone she meets for the rest of her supernaturally long life. No matter how notable the exchange, people simply forget they ever encountered her. It’s a tragic but logical implication: because we deeply affect and influence one another’s lives, we belong to one another. Therefore, the only way to belong to one’s self alone is to be alone, and have no effect on anyone else. Which is basically to cease to exist.
Fortunately for us, and for that thief on the cross, the Heidelberg Catechism begins right where these philosophical ponderings and pleas for remembrance leave us:
Q: “What is your only comfort in life and death?”
A: “That I am not my own, but belong, with body and soul, both in life and in death, to my faithful savior Jesus Christ.”
- js